Da
Meztgarino writes:
Anyone
who grew up missing a father because of WWII or death or imprisonment
or just going down to the corner for a pack of smokes and never coming
back is aware of this to some degree. I was fortunate to have a
very
experienced grandfather. He didn't play catch or help me build
things,
but he was a great and reliable source of wisdom.
My mother
married an affable drunk (as opposed to an alcoholic) who DID take me
hunting, and fishing, and all that stuff. He couldn't fix things,
but
he could find guys who could, and I watched 'em do it.
Still .
. . there's that persistent feeling of being different, minimalized,
the odd duck . . . especially if you're an only kid who has nobody with
whom to commiserate.
cnsnews.com/blog/michael-w-chapman/woman-raised-lesbian-couple-i-ached-every-day-dad
Heather Barwick, who was raised by her mother and her mother's lesbian
partner, wrote in an essay this week that same-sex "marriage" is not
the same as normal marriage between a man and a woman, that the
traditional family is best, and that while growing up she "ached every
day for a dad."
Barwick, who is 31 now, married, and has four children, said that
"same-sex marriage and parenting withholds either a mother or father
from a child while telling him or her that it doesn't matter. That it's
all the same. But it's not."
"A lot of us, a lot of your kids, are hurting," wrote Barwick in her
essay for The Federalist website. "My father's absence created a huge
hole in me, and I ached every day for a dad. I loved my mom's partner,
but another mom could never have replaced the father I lost."
"I grew up surrounded by women who said they didn’t need or want a
man," said Barwick. "Yet, as a little girl, I so desperately wanted a
daddy. It is a strange and confusing thing to walk around with this
deep-down unquenchable ache for a father, for a man, in a community
that says that men are unnecessary."
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